Stress?

 Stress can be defined as any type of change that causes physical, emotional, or psychological strain. Stress is your body's response to anything that requires attention or action. We talk in class more about what causes, types, and ways to manage stress. We mentioned internal and external stress which I basically see as personal stress and stress that comes from other people to you. For example, internal stress for me is when I have to get my things done, things that I personally chose and that most of them are very important in my day. External stress for me is when people or situations in the exterior get you and you get stress from them or they transfer their stress to you. I also think that internal stress is much more important than external and that we can also avoid the external stress by simply not caring about the outer things. My strongest believe is that some internal stress is good because it makes us get things done. The hard thing to do about stress is learn how to control it in order to be healthy for us and help us accomplish our goals. Managing different types of quantity of stress is not easy at all and will always affect us if we don’t learn how to control it. Another thing that I have been applying since I got to college about how to manage my stress is to not stress in advanced or about things that are not really there yet. For example, a lot of students including myself get stress because of projects that are due in a month form that day or even more, instead of concentration in the today and max the assignments of the week but no more than that because that is what bring to us stress. I think stress is unavoidable because we are humans and as a human, we have societies and that makes us have different responsibilities that will make us feel useful. I f we don’t have any task, responsibility, assignment, goal in life we will obviously have 0 stress at all but potentially feel useless and with no purpose. Sometimes I think about when I was a kid and had cero responsibilities and want to go back, because even though I know I can handle stress, it feels good to think about living with no stress or responsibilities.

Now that we understand a little bit more about stress itself and how it can affect our daily life, we can talk about a really important topic that is influenced by stress which is stress in marriage. After learning how we can manage stress by our own, we also have to learn how to manage stress with another person as a couple. Getting marry will always be a learning process, and specially a new learning process of things that you already know but this time learning how to do it together with your partner. Stress in marriage can be either really good or really bad depending on how the couple controls the situation. Stress that is not controlled and that affects the relationship usually will start as a small amount of stress from a small situation and eventually that will bring ups and downs in the relationship. A good way to leave stress out and create more connection with your partner is by having intimacy. Believe it or not intimacy is a key factor on divorces now day and has always been. If there is not good intimacy between the couple the stress will take over the relationship and eventually end it. Intimacy, conversation, problem solving will be a couple of the factors that might determinate how the relationship will go and they will learn from their mistakes.