PARENTING

 

Parents are responsible for caring and giving children everything, the need for their healthy development, from their physical health to their emotional education. And without a doubt, one of the things that parents are supposed to make sure is that children are happy. There are studies that say that the first years of life will be the basis for their social and emotional development in the future, so it is extremely important that parents give them the necessary tools. Happiness is something we all aspire to. Having a life with which we feel calm, full and happy is undoubtedly one of the goals that many of us want, not only for ourselves, but also for our own children. I feel like parents have a mission that is: to help children to be happy. But how can they do it? There are many ways to do that but one of them is attachment. There are different types of attachment, but the one that will help them to raise happy children is the secure attachment, which is one in which a relationship is fostered where there is communication, care and affective demonstrations, providing children with security, but also the necessary tools. to develop their autonomy.

The environment in which children develop greatly influences not only their emotional development, but also the possible problems they may face in the future. Various studies have found that growing up in a conflictive or violent environment increases the chances of having problems at school or engaging in risky behaviors, such as alcohol and drugs. You have to remember that the environment in which children grow up will also lay the foundations for the type of relationships they have with other people, so it is important that they develop in an environment of respect and affection, in which they are taken into account and where family conflicts are resolved as amicably and peacefully as possible, regardless of whether the parents are together or apart. I remember being in primary school and see some of my classmates that had a lot of problems and most of them if not all of them had problems back home, and that is one example of a thousand that we have now days. One of the keys to being happy is feeling good about ourselves. But feeling good about oneself is something that begins to be fostered from childhood. That’s why I think parents have to guide children so that they can have good self-esteem, confidence and self-assurance. To achieve this, they have to pay attention not only to the way they treat them, but also to the words they say to them and how they say them to them. Do they recognize only when they manage to do something well, or do they also praise their efforts?

And last but not least, our mental and emotional health that goes to all of us not only parents, because we know that soon we will be parents. How do we intend to raise happy and safe children if we do not take care of these aspects in our life? When you are a parent, it is easy to forget about yourself, but if we are not emotionally well, we will not be able to transmit that well-being to children, nor promote healthy development in them. I personally can say that I grew up in an environment or family that gave me at least the basics to handle society. I would not say the best environment or situation because I think nobody has grown in an environment that is “perfect”. I am happy with my family and what they have given to me and I will try my best to help my future kids to have what I couldn’t have when I was a kid.