Week 2 Single Parent

 

I grew up in a family where I have my sister, mom and dad together in the same house. I know that growing up with your both parents being together is a blessing now days. What I do also think is that growing up with one parent is a blessing too, because as the same way you might miss things during your childhood you learn a lot more. I have been close to people or friends that grew up with one parent and I’ve seen different skills or perspectives about life in all of them.  Even though studies have shown that kids that grow up with one parent they are most likely to struggle more during their challenges I feel like you can also have some advantage if you know how to use your situation.  Everything turns out of how you see your problems in life and how you confront them. If you learn to have a positive mind for every challenge that comes up you will have higher chances to be successful and happy in this life.

 I have a really personal experience that I would like to share, and is about my other 3 half siblings that I have. Those siblings belong to my father’s previous marriage that he had.  They used to live with us for a couple of years when they were kids, and I always saw them as my full siblings because that I felt the relationship with each one of them. Years later they went back to Arizona and started their own life without a father figure to help them. Even though my dad has always been contacting them, visiting them every once in a while, they grew up without having a dad. Now day 2 of them already are married with a family and functional life. I see them as an example because I couldn’t imagine how would have been to grow up without a dad and they have showed me that even in that situation you can learn to go over your problems and be successful. I can tell that they are really working on not making the same mistake of letting their children to grow up with just one parent. I don’t really blame my dad for any of this because he did not have the fault at the time of starting a new life.

Based on my own personal experiences I can say that children that grow up with one parent can learn to not do the same and learn to be happy and successful. The fact of growing up with both parents will not make you being happy or successful automatically. I have always thought that we get the life that we deserve or the life that we work for, and not the one that our parents chose for us. Even in the scriptures we can learn that we are not judge for what our parents have done before.  Obviously, my opinion is not a professional one and it is also based on one simple study which we cannot generalized. Overall, I know that researches can say a lot of different things, but like we read our material during the last week it says that it is hard to have an exact conclusion. Every time they do more research about how families work; they will start to find more topics that are just impossible to generalized or have a strong conclusion. There are a lot of variables such as culture, location, year, gender etc. and because of that it will always be impossible to have a final conclusion on how the perfect family environment should be.