Male of Female?

 

Gender identity usually comes out when you are a kid. There was a point that we talked about that really got stuck in my head, and is how we treat or judge kids that act different. We have a specific term for girls that are always around boys, that are rude, that play with boy toys and that term is tomboy. But what about a boy that is always around girls, sensible etc. we don’t have a specific term other than gay. When we judge them and call them by a specific term, we are literally choosing their destiny because they are kids and they will always be marked by that experience. Why can’t we just stop setting up stereotypes to kids or people and call them by what they really are and feel. Why can’t we stop judging kids by how they start interacting, how they express since they are young. I know that through the years go we are more open to see new things, to let things happen and to not judge others, but I still think that we are not mentally, emotionally capable or ready to see how different kids can interact without labeling them.

Talking about gender in 2021 is a serious but open topic at the same time, and it can also open conversations to other topics about it. Now days we see that being able to choose your gender is an option at the time of identifying your gender. In the past we were use to not think about changing gender because world wide was really strict about free expression. I like a lot of things about the second century like how we can dress differently, work in different jobs with no stereotype, have a different lifestyle etc. But I also don’t like a few things that I think the world has exaggerated like relationship status and gender freedom. I don’t have anything against people that prefer to be other gender, I am totally fine with them doing that, but I do think that the order of family is how God stablished. God has stablished that families are conform by a woman and a man as parents and their kids. We are created this way in order to be able to create more life and bring kids to this world, which you can’t do with same gender parents.

I would like to share an experience about a friend that I have that feels different about his gender identity. I met this guy on my mission and he is been always judge by how he acts and how he expresses himself. He is been trying to serve a mission as a missionary of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and he has not been able to go serve because local leaders form the church think that he is gay and that he is not worthy enough to go on a mission. He has 3 bachelors degrees and work for the Colombian government traveling to meeting in Europe. I talked to him about how what he feels attracted to and he said that he is asexual. I really respect his feelings and I don’t think that makes him not worthy to be a missionary. Overall, I feel that we all should respect other opinion and feelings. Treating them different will not make them go back to not be gay, asexual etc. Most of the people that change their gender are very respectful to other people and try to not judge others. The only thing that I will not support is marriage between people of the same sex or parents from the same sex trying to have kids and create a family.