Week 3 Family System Theory

 

We all have different family systems and which we don’t even realized, such as symbolic interaction, conflict, exchange, system theories. It is really important to know and recognized each one of the family systems theories in order to know how to solve our family problems.  Each theory has a different problems and challenges and it’s guided to all different types of families. I believe that we can fit in different theories at the same time.

 For example, my family will be categorized in the symbolic, exchange and system theories. Symbolic interaction theory because we are shape by certain interactions, interactions like how I grew up like with my family, what kind of interactions we had when I was a child. Interactions like when they play with me as a kid, they helped me with my homework when I started school, teaching me how to treat other people and some manners. Those interactions are the ones that shape the way that I am right now to other people and the way that treat each other as a family. Exchange theory is when give as much as we receive and also is just about me, myself, and I. I felt that we have this exchange system because when I was a teenager It was a thing of you give, I’ll give, like me helping my dad on his work and in return I was receiving time with the truck or even more time with him. My dad has always been a busy person that is always working and puts his work first than his family, so in order to me to spend time with him was needed to help him at work in return for his attention or time. Also, with the resto of my family, it was necessary to do something for them in order to receive help, attention, etc. from them. Last theory that I think my family have been system theory which is basically playing roles in the family.  I am the youngest in the family with 4 siblings, and I have always had a role in the family since I can remember. I had the role of helping my dad in everything he needed even when my older siblings didn’t. I had the role of doing all the favors for the family including my parents and siblings. I had the role of always follow and listen to others because I was just simply the youngest one. I definitely think that every little thing that I lived with my family made me the person that I am right now and that also including the bad things that families can have. I am not saying that I don’t have a happy family, even though it sounds like the other way, but I just want to show or express the conflicts that families can have. I love my family and I would never change them for anything or change any moment from my childhood for anything else.

How I mentioned before every single family has a family system that is conform of rules and boundaries. Doesn’t matter if we think that we have the happiest family we all have certain family system.  Each one of those systems have their goods and bad that we can always improve on. Rules and boundaries will help us to respect, help and love each other more in our families. I liked how we saw on Thursday some plays about how going to family therapist can be like. We saw how the kids always have a parent preference that trust the most and because of that there is tension between the other parent and the kids. I can definitely identify my self in that play, because I trust my mom the most and because of that it is hard to be open with my that or to trust him the same way. I feel like every person should have at least one seminar or course about family relations in order to have a happier family.

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