Why dating?

    During the week we talk about dating and marriage which is for me a really sensitive specially for people of my age. We also read The Family: A Proclamation to the World which talks about how God has commanded to raise our families. I would like to talk about divorce which is also a really sensitive topic to talk about, because there are a lot of different opinions all around the world. I like that topic because is related to marriage and is the consequence of not having a happy marriage and that is why the divorce rate now days is really high. Researches show that at least 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The two main factors why divorce rate is been increasing are lack of commitment and argue too much. I think that lack of commitment is been a key factor in recent years because now days we are used to change everything, like we change our old phone for the new one every year, we change trends and outfits every 3-6 months and we are just getting used to always be changing in our lives. As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints we believe in marriage and not marriage for a couple of years but marriage for life and eternity. Family is really important to us, and everything we do is based on living happy with our families. Being around members of the church environment makes you think that you have to get marry young. Most of the young people from the church tend to get marry really soon when they meet the person and typically leaders will make you feel like you are wasting your time if you don’t get marry before 24. I would like to share two difference experiences that I have observed from my friends that got married. First experience is about a friend from my mission that he also goes to same school here in Rexburg, and he got marry a couple of months ago. He shared his story of how he met his wife and all the process before marriage took about 2 months long. He met his wife on a random weekend and the next day after that they were dating, a week after that they got engaged and they actually got marry a month after they got engaged. With this example I can see how people sometimes rush things and even though they are still together and with a baby, I think that is not the way to either date or to start a family. The second experience is about my best friend Daniel. Daniel met his wife Emily using the app Mutual which is a dating Christian app on November 2020 and they talked for a month and then met in person on December 2020. They started to get to know each other for 2 months when he asked her out, and then 3 months later they got engaged and later on September 2021 they got married. It took Daniel 10 months to do all the dating and marriage process. I personally don’t prefer to get marry in less than a year of knowing the girl, I feel like a need more than a year officially dating the girl in order to at least get engaged. I do believe in revelation and faith to do things and go over problems, but I think to start a family you need a stronger base and more connection that will only happen through time.

Before marriage is dating, and I think that is key in order to have a successful marriage life. We talk about dating on the second day of class, and we had a dating type which are; planned, paid for and paired off. Planned dates are usually the ones that we really plan out and that we actually include more communication. Paid for is obviously paying or spending money on the date, which a lot of students do. I personally don’t like spending money on my first date because a lot of girls take advantage of that and just want guys to buy them food which I am totally against it. The last one is paired off which is in groups but actually giving main attention to your date. I think that dating will keep changing during the years because technology is making everything different and we will have to get used to the new trends, because there is no way back.


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